Your child has started school, and everything seemed fine until recently. The apple looked nice, but when looked closer, er could see thaahe the little hole had been there. What made you look harder? Your child’s discomfort with school or even his refusal to go to school. When he is late for school,l isn’t very pleasant. But missing school is intolerable. And here comes the reply: `I’m not going to school and you can’t make me!`. If nothing is done, this may have repercussions up to his student years.
Cracks Beneath the Shiny Surface
It might be a fight for power. But an issue with one of the teachers is more likely to it. No wonder things are on the verge of exploding (or may already have) when two people who don’t like each other have to spend so many hours a day together. They just don’t match, and you find yourself between the devil and the deep blue sea. You don’t know whether to interfere or not, but you know the grades are going down, and something should be done. Encourage your child to talk and solve this on his own, have the courage to admit his mistakes, and even approach his teacher. Don’t throw accusations at anyone and try to find solutions together. If nothing seems to work, then take your child to another class or even another school.
Another `worm` may be an aggressive, dominating child who rejects yours for different reasons. Talk to him about their relationship and remind him that love cannot be bought, so one true friend would do. If he found it, already make him focus on that friendship. Support your child and don’t criticize. Self-esteem is very important at this age (but when isn’t?). The way your child sees himself affects the way his friends see him.
Planting Seeds for Real Solutions
Remember a funny scenario in the movies or cartoons when the pupil comes home anshowsow his angry parents his marks. They burst. Well… disappointment and desperation turn this funny scene into an ordeal in real life. These kinds of results may have happened because the child has eye or neurological problems. Other reasons may be common: he may not be used to learning, or the teaching methods don’t fit hhis istemperamentr. If this gets you angry you let yourself trapped in a game where everyone loses. If you make the child feel guilty for the bad marks, he’ll feel incompetent. You all season in a circle. He needs to like learning again, and you should help. Underline the effort, not theresultsl,,ts and be optimistic.
No matter what size the `worms` are, you always have to put yourself in your child’s place. And remember: you can always resign, but our child has to go to school every day,even if the results are not good, even if iame teacher doesn’t like him, or another child is giving him a hard time.
